Nate’s Monday Morning Message
“Nothing makes one feel so strong as a call for help.” - Pope Paul VI
Welcome to this week’s edition of Nate’s Monday Morning Message…we have all been there, at least once or twice and even when we hate to admit it; sometimes you just can’t do it all. It is both empowering and humbling to ask for help. And in most cases, the people we ask for help are more than happy to jump in. I learned a long time ago that when we try to do it all ourselves, whatever that looks like…be it physically doing everything, or always the one to pay for the dinners out or the one who always hosts the party…we actually deny the people in our life the pleasure of giving back to us.
According to the Law of Reciprocity, when someone does something nice for a person, there is a deep-rooted psychological need to return the favor…if we are constantly doing it all, are we really helping or are we hurting our loved ones? There is a lot to be gained by allowing others to help, and it feels great to receive their support. Let’s start this week…who can you ask for help? Who owes you a favor, or a turn at picking up the check? Just ask, you’ll be surprised by the response. Let’s make it a great week!
A Lesson from the Mad Hatter
One of the first steps to accomplishing great things in your life is to cease dwelling on the negative things in your past. Carefully assess your present strengths, successes, and achievements. Dwell on those positive events in your life, and quit limiting your potential by constantly thinking about what you have done poorly. Alice and the Mad Hatter in Wonderland had a conversation that illustrates this concept:
Alice: Where I come from, people study what they are not good at in order to be able to do what they are good at.
Mad Hatter: We only go around in circles in Wonderland, but we always end up where we started. Would you mind explaining yourself?
Alice: Well, grown-ups tell us to find out what we did wrong, and never do it again
Mad Hatter: That's odd! It seems to me that in order to find out about something, you have to study it. And when you study it, you should become better at it. Why should you want to become better at something and then never do it again? But please continue.
Alice: Nobody ever tells us to study the right things we do. We're only supposed to learn from the wrong things. But we are permitted to study the right things other people do. And sometimes we're even told to copy them.
Mad Hatter: That's cheating!
Alice: You're quite right, Mr. Hatter. I do live in a topsy-turvy world. It seems like I have to do something wrong first, in order to learn from what not to do. And then, by not doing what I'm not supposed to do, perhaps I'll be right. But I'd rather be right the first time, wouldn't you?
WORDS OF INSPIRATION
“Trust is the glue of life. It's the most essential ingredient in effective communication. It's the foundational principle that holds all relationships.” - Stephen Covey
“There is no end to education. It is not that you read a book, pass an examination, and finish with education. The whole of life, from the moment you are born to the moment you die, is a process of learning.” - Jiddu Krishnamurti
“Do the difficult things while they are easy and do the great things while they are small. A journey of a thousand miles must begin with a single step.” - Lao Tzu
“Outstanding leaders go out of their way to boost the self-esteem of their personnel. If people believe in themselves, it's amazing what they can accomplish.” - Sam Walton
“I attribute my success to this - I never gave or took any excuse.” - Florence Nightingale