Nate’s Monday Morning Message 

Welcome to this week’s edition of Nate’s Monday Morning Message. I hope this email finds you enjoying the beauty of Mother Nature, and the cooler temps. Today, I want to talk about the unpopular topic of forgiveness…not something most of us like to think about, however, forgiveness is essential if we desire to live a life of abundance. I read something yesterday that I am inspired to share, which is a unique and different way to look at forgiveness.

If you look at your life, your relationships, your past experiences, we all have something that we need to forgive. And if we look deeper, how is holding on to that pain serving you in your current situation? Sometimes we hold on to something painful because we don’t know any other way to cope, and we get so comfortable in the pain, that we truly don’t know what it means to feel good again.

To give…to forgive is to give, not only to those around you but most importantly to yourself. To give…freedom from the pain and sadness, to give renewed joy, to give love…to forgive is to give (you fill in the blank). Instead of feeling as if forgiveness means you forget or you let someone off the hook for hurting you, think of it as a gift…to yourself. Who do you need to forgive first? Let’s make it a great week!


The Weight of the Glass

Once upon a time a psychology professor walked around on a stage while teaching stress management principles to an auditorium filled with students.  As she raised a glass of water, everyone expected they’d be asked the typical “glass half empty or glass half full” question.  Instead, with a smile on her face, the professor asked, “How heavy is this glass of water I’m holding?”

Students shouted out answers ranging from eight ounces to a couple pounds.

She replied, “From my perspective, the absolute weight of this glass doesn’t matter.  It all depends on how long I hold it.  If I hold it for a minute or two, it’s fairly light.  If I hold it for an hour straight, its weight might make my arm ache a little.  If I hold it for a day straight, my arm will likely cramp up and feel completely numb and paralyzed, forcing me to drop the glass to the floor.  In each case, the weight of the glass doesn’t change, but the longer I hold it, the heavier it feels to me.”

As the class shook their heads in agreement, she continued, “Your stresses and worries in life are very much like this glass of water.  Think about them for a while and nothing happens.  Think about them a bit longer and you begin to ache a little.  Think about them all day long, and you will feel completely numb and paralyzed – incapable of doing anything else until you drop them.”

The moral:  It’s important to remember to let go of your stresses and worries.  No matter what happens during the day, as early in the evening as you can, put all your burdens down.  Don’t carry them through the night and into the next day with you.  If you still feel the weight of yesterday’s stress, it’s a strong sign that it’s time to put the glass down. 



“The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.” - Mahatma Gandhi

“Never forget the three powerful resources you always have available to you: love, prayer, and forgiveness.” - H. Jackson Brown, Jr.

“Mistakes are always forgivable, if one has the courage to admit them.” - Bruce Lee

“Forgiveness is not always easy. At times, it feels more painful than the wound we suffered, to forgive the one that inflicted it. And yet, there is no peace without forgiveness.” - Marianne Williamson

“To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover that the prisoner was you.” - Lewis B. Smedes

Nate Martinez, RE/MAX Professionals

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